We are excited to share our chat with the deeply talented author and business owner, Hilary Jastram. Please enjoy our interview with Hilary about her new book, thoughts on love, and writing advice!
1. What is your book about?
2. Can you tell us about TM?
3. How did you get involved with GMP?
I got started with GMP about two weeks after I was diagnosed when I pitched them my first article, “Let Me Love Your Filthy Heart.” It was about how we choose love (even back then) 🙂 The following January, I became an editor. They helped me transition into freelance writing and were absolutely an incredible support system when I was still quite sick. I have written about supporting your son when he comes out of the closet–later adapted to supporting you kids–for Yahoo Parenting; how men who are disabled have unique emotional needs, and how I became a reluctant entrepreneur. When people refer to the mothership and identifying with a nurturing relationship; I think of GMP as the fathership. The place where it all began and my first home in the writing world.
4. What do you think about love?
Love is a gift and the hardest thing about love is believing the other person loves you. I think a ton of issues we have with love can be traced back to self-confidence in one or both people. Love is also a choice every single day, and it’s not so much a declaration of romantic love, (yes, it is that!) but long-term love is a pledge to accept each other as you are and even when you change. It is a pledge to be on the journey together no matter what comes up and to hold your couplehood in the highest esteem. Nothing takes precedence over this. Not temporary moods, not life incidences, not mistakes we make that actually hurt the other person, because implied in long-term love is that we are going to do our best, but I will also accept you for your well-meaning, or HUMAN mistakes that I know will hurt you. It’s: I believe we are strong enough to survive life with you and I pledge myself to that. And this kind of love is so deeply fulfilling. It is comfort and laughter and joy and playing. It is unbreakable trust and security and staying up sharing funny videos because you both have insomnia. When you find it, it is rare and astounding.
5. What advice would you give to someone who wants to write a book?
If you want to write a book, you need to have a solid outline. This is vital and is the backbone of the book. It is the governing document of the MS that ensures your book is structurally sound. Once the outline is done, get comfortable with dictation or the art of writing. Many people dictate their books, even into their phones, and don’t even write anymore. Understand, this is a viable choice and obviously speeds the whole process up, but your finished MS will reflect more of a skeleton soup than a meaty stew. You will need to work with a professional (or should) to extract more information for your stories. There are successful tactics to writing a book as well, even as it pertains to storytelling and the inclusion of dialogue. So, it’s best to know what has worked for others and replicate that for yourself. Also…do not skimp on a cover and use a designer who understands the unique dimensional designs of book covers and who has the ability to create a composition that is compelling.
Buy “Sick Success” here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0786YQGQ8/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1